How do you nip escalating fights over power in the bud? We show you three powerful techniques for defusing defiant power struggles.
“Remember, when you engage in an argument with your child, you’re just giving him more power.”
How do you know if you’re entering into a power struggle with your child? Any time you’re asking your child to do something and he’s refusing to comply—when you find him “pushing back” against the request you’ve given or the rules you’ve set down—you’re in a struggle. If the push for power is appropriate, you should be able to sit down with your child and talk about it in a fairly reasonable way. If it escalates into an argument or fight, you are in a defiant power struggle—and make no mistake about it, parents need effective ways to dial that back immediately. Read more …
Here’s the Truth
If being your kids’ friend was enough to raise them successfully, we would all probably parent that way. But our job is way more complicated than that. Children and teens really crave boundaries, limits and structure. At the same time, they also need some healthy separation from us as they go through adolescence and develop into adults. Our role as parents is really to teach, coach and give our kids consequences when they misbehave. Read more …
From time to time you may have concerns about homework. Meet with teachers early in the school year and ask them to let you know if difficulties arise.
Some problems which may arise are:
- the homework can regularly be too hard or too easy
- your child refuses to do assignments despite encouragement
- your child has problems completing assignments on time
- you would like your child to do homework missed through illness
- neither your child nor you understand the homework
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Written by a practising teacher, this article is aimed at parents of children aged up to 14.
Studies in Britain have shown that children who are supported by their families with homework are likely to perform significantly better in academic examinations at 16 years old and beyond than those who do not. If we want our children to be successful in school, family involvement is important.
How can you help?
- By showing an interest you are communicating the fact that school work is important and needs to be taken seriously.
- Encourage children to complete homework to the best of their ability.
- Urge children to watch less television and spend more time studying and reading.
- Express high expectations for children from an early age.
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