Posted on Leave a comment

Read Aloud Tips

 Find a time to read when you can both relax and enjoy it – try bedtime, nap time, snack time, after dinner.

 Get comfortable. Find a cozy spot to read and make sure the TV and other distractions are off.

 Read the book or story yourself before you read it to your child.

 If your child doesn’t like a book, switch to another. If he or she isn’t in the mood, stop reading and try again later.

 Go to the library with your children regularly. Ask the librarian to recommend books and book lists. Get your children their own library cards.

 Build a home collection of books. Shop at garage and book sales. Trade books with friends

 Encourage your children to look at books on their own. Let them take books to bed and read themselves to sleep,but don’t ask questions.

 You don’t have to be a great reader, just read from the heart.

 Make it fun. It’s not a lesson.

 Talk about the stories with your child, but don’t ask questions.

banner_reading_spelling_writing

Learn how you can develop the same love for Maths for your Child at MathsExCEL

find_us_on_facebook_logo

Posted on Leave a comment

Kids Helping with House Chores

Chore charts can help keep your life organized, teach your child about responsibility and how to be a part of a family.

Any given moment in our lives can become a teaching moment, we simply have to take the time. This rule especially applies when we first introduce the notion of household responsibility to our children.

Here is a simple way to go about it:

A rule of thumb in our home is: “Sharing is Caring”. We share our toys, food, T.V. time and so on. We share everything, which also means sharing the responsibilities around the house. At the moment my son Zabir has 4 ‘jobs’. Making his bed, clearing his toys, setting the table and putting the dishes away.

My Rules Are:

  • Children should have anywhere from two to four household responsibilities.
  • Chores should be viewed as responsibilities and not as WORK.
  • Do not forget to show your appreciation and thank your child when they complete the task. A little bit of praise can go a long way.

Here are my top ten age appropriate chores for children.

  1. Setting up the table.
  2. Clearing the table.
  3. Putting the toys away.
  4. Making their bed.
  5. Help put the groceries away.
  6. Feed the pet.
  7. Putting the laundry in the hamper.
  8. Matching up clean socks and folding them. (Great math skill)
  9. Watering the plants. (Gross motor activity)
  10. Putting their tooth brush away and keeping a tidy bathroom.

I believe that children in their preschool years should have up to four household responsibilities.

Posted on Leave a comment

10 Specific Compliments to Give Your Children

Fact is, children look to their parents and teachers for encouragement, and finding affirmation at home is foundational to positive emotional development. Parents need to be in the business of building our children up.  But we also need to be honest, and it’s important to use compliments that really mean something. Kids can sense disingenuousness and empty praise. Making stuff up is harmful; false praise is dishonest and the practice breaks trust.

Here are 10 compliments all kids need to hear:

  • Recognize and compliment character: We live in a world where integrity is neither consistently taught nor widely expected. When our children demonstrate honesty, kindness, trustworthiness and reliability, that’s a great time to take them aside and offer a sincere compliment.
  • Compliment obedience and respect:  It’s too easy to fall into patterns of disapproval, where the only time we notice is when kids do wrong. Rather than waiting for disobedience or disrespect (then coming down like a ton of bricks) try noticing obedience and respect: “I don’t always remember to tell you, but you are an awesome young man, and I appreciate the way you treat your mother”.
  • Appreciate them for simply being part of the family:  “Every time I see you, I’m thankful that I’m a dad.” Kids need to understand that they are valued simply because they are.
  • Compliment contributions to the family:  “Clearing the table (sweeping the porch… putting out the trash) makes a real difference. I appreciate your contribution.” Kids need to understand that what they do makes a difference, that the adults notice, and that pitching in is a good part of family life.
  • Compliment the quality of a child’s work:  “This is one clean porch, mister!” “You mowed the lawn right up to the edge.  Way to go!  I’m so glad you take this job so seriously, it shows.” Doing a job at a high standard is always worth noting.
  • We can compliment the effort, even when the result is not the best:  “Your willingness to help makes me happy! Now we need to take a look at how you can get the trash to the curb without leaving a trail!” Compliments can be an important part of our role as teachers.
  • It’s important that we compliment children when they achieve something new:  “Wow! That’s a huge leap forward for you there in math, pal.” “Awesome! I’m not at all surprised after you worked so hard.” A well-placed compliment can keep a positive ball rolling.
  • We can compliment sense of style even if we don’t exactly share their taste:   We don’t want to hedge kids into being clones of dad, or mom. “When it comes to putting together an outfit, you certainly have some flair!” “I can tell that you put a lot of thought into the way you look.” “I’ve never seen a table set quite like that before – you have an amazing imagination!” It’s not useful to limit compliments to the narrow range of our own taste.
  • Compliment steps towards a long-term goal:  “Son, the improvement you’re showing is commendable. Thanks for trying.” Waiting for perfection before we’re willing to dish out a compliment is inefficient, may dampen enthusiasm, and does little to help the process of growth.
  • Try complimenting their friends:  But only do this when you can do it honestly! “Your friends are the greatest!” “That Jimmy is such a positive young man.” “You know, it gives me a lot of confidence to know you use common sense in choosing your friends.”

banner_mastery_maths

Start building your child’s self-esteem and stretch their potential to their fullest! Confident with MathsExCEL!

find_us_on_facebook_logo

Posted on Leave a comment

No Wasted Time

I don’t know about you, but time is just flying by way too fast. My son is literally growing up right before my eyes. I wish I could slow down the hands of time. Every single milestone and new discovery is a valued treasure.

I want to savor every single moment.

And so, over the past two weeks I have missed deadlines, ignored “work” and watched him more intensely, played with him a bit more, had meaningful conversations with him, studying him, adoring him.

Son at the Age of 5

My son has turned 7 now. SEVEN. He will be bigger boy next year. So, I savor each moment of now. Zabir is thoughtful – He clearly uses logic in what he says and how he acts. Striving to be better, every day. My son – can be hyper in so many ways, yet be the most well behave boy if you were to be with him closely.

Just the other day, while I was having my nap, Zabir came on me and start waking me up with smiles and kisses. Enjoyed but curious, thinking that he was up to something. So I asked him with a smile, “Thank you for waking me up sweetheart… and why are you keep smiling? Is there anything you want?” He replied, “No Ummi, I wake you up in smiles and kisses because you always wakes me up with smiles and kisses” Well that goes my heart!

Zabir will randomly tell me that he loves me. Or, he’d get my attention just to say “hi”. He reminded me of Piglet and Pooh…

Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh?” he whispered.
“Yes, Piglet?”
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s hand. “I just wanted to be sure of you.”

Oh, these days are going by fast, and my baby will one day be grown. But, the memories of yesterday will always be cherished.

Pure joy.